Hopefully you can figure out a way to get the celebration of your dreams ! It’s not at all weird to want a redo - I’d just make sure it was possible to get what I wanted before going through the planning efforts and heartache. So I’d look at why people may not have made the first wedding, and see if those are solvable problems, and plan accordingly. But I would advise carefully considering how and if things would really be improved as you think about plans (Ex: if having someone give you away is very important to you- make sure that someone would be willing to do this for the ‘do over’/renewal)- I would be happy to attend a vow renewal/anniversary party but I will caution you this sort of thing may not garner the same level of excitement and interest as a first time wedding. Again, you may have even lower attendance and then you will feel worse! Best of luck.Ī vow renewal, especially for a major anniversary, is a great way to get a “re do” without blatantly trying to just do over the day- and probably better received (which I’d be especially aware of with low attendance as one of your issues with your wedding). But I don't think redoing the entire wedding will make it better. I would consider working through your feelings (counselling can be a wonderful thing) if you are feeling really down about it. Remember that the important thing and goal of a wedding is that you got to marry your spouse. but it would likely be even lower at a redo. You mention the turnout was low as your wedding.

I don't think you would have much success re-doing a wedding if you want it to be a traditional wedding with lots of guests.

Honestly, probably no one else noticed what went wrong. People might even be offended- like you didn't appreciate their presence and gifts at the first wedding. If your wedding was recently, I just think it would be a near impossible thing to explain to your guests that you want them all to come back because your wedding didn't go according to plan the first time around. How long have you been married? Is it a major anniversary yet? (10 years?) Then you could do a vow renewal with a party.

The wedding do over